Anti-stalking legal options

Your legal rights and options if someone is stalking you

Legal tools may help to increase your safety and hold the person accountable. Each legal option has its own benefits and limits, and they may not always feel simple or straightforward — so it’s okay to take time, and get advice. (Also consider practical protections.)

“Orders” which may provide legal protection

Applying for any of the orders below involves writing an affidavit — a statement that describes what has happened, how it has affected you, and why you need protection, that you swear is true — and completing some court forms. You can apply without a lawyer, but it is often helpful to have a lawyer or support service guide you through the process.

Having an order served on the person stalking you may convince them to stop. It can also make it easier for police to act if the person breaches the order. However, in some cases, taking legal action may increase your risk (the stalker may react with further distressing and/or threatening behaviour), so it is important to get advice and plan for your safety before applying. If you are unsure, you can call one of the helplines to talk through the pros and cons.

If you think you might be in urgent danger, dial 111 for police. Tell the operator it’s urgent and that you are in danger, so they know to send help immediately

Court orders against family violence

If the person stalking you is a partner, ex-partner, flatmate, family member, or anyone you have had a close personal relationship with, you can apply to the Family Court for a Protection Order, Property Order and Furniture Order. If you have children together, you can apply for a Parenting Order. Police can also issue a short-term Police Safety Order.

Protection Orders

  • A protection order prohibits that person from contacting, following, threatening, or harming you.
  • It can also protect your children or anyone else named in the order, and it can require the person to surrender any weapons to the police. (But note that if the child is under 16, and there is an existing parenting order in place, the Protection Order will not automatically be legally prioritised over the parenting order: the parenting order will still remain in force unless replaced, discharged or varied.)
  • A Protection Order can be an important tool for safety, but its effectiveness depends on the person following the order and on police enforcing it. The family violence specialists (listed here) can help you think through these considerations before applying.
  • If you need immediate protection, you can apply for a temporary (without-notice) Protection Order, which means the other person will not be told about it until it has been granted. Once the order becomes final, it stays in place indefinitely unless you choose to cancel it. However, the Family Court has become more cautious about granting temporary orders, which means the other person might sometimes be notified before it is approved and given the chance to respond — this can increase risk in the short term.
  • If the judge decides your case is not urgent, or if you’ve filed a non-urgent Protection Order application, the Court will let you know that your application needs to be sent to the other person involved and that no temporary order has been made. Before it is sent, you’ll have a chance to stop your application if you want to — usually within 48 hours. To stop the application, you need to file what’s called an “interlocutory application”.
  • You can also apply for property and/or or furniture orders at the same time as a Protection Order (and only then):
    • A Property Order allows you to stay in the place you live while the other person has to leave.
    • A Furniture Order allows you to keep furniture (e.g. bed, fridge) or take it with you, regardless of who owns it.
  • If you have children, you can also apply for a Parenting Order – for example, only allowing your co-parent to have supervised contact with the children.
  • See Protection Order pages at the Ministry of Justice; and Community Law.

Police Safety Orders (PSO)

  • A Police Safety Order is issued by police for protection from family violence. You cannot apply for a PSO yourself, but police can put one in place on your behalf (this may be a reason for you to report stalking to the police).
  • A PSO requires the person to leave your home, stay away, and not contact you for a set period of time (up to 10 days), even if they own or normally live in the property.
  • If they breach the order, police can arrest them.
  • This is a short-term measure designed to give you space and time to plan for your safety and connect with support services.
  • See the PSO page at NZ Police; and Community Law.

See also our info on trespass notices, reporting to police, and legal options for online stalking.

Court order against non-family stalking

If the person stalking or harassing you is not a partner or family member, such as a coworker, acquaintance, neighbour, or stranger, you can apply to the District Court for a Restraining Order.

Restraining Orders

  • This is a civil order under the Harassment Act 1997 which prohibits the person from contacting, approaching, or monitoring you in any way, including by phone, text, email, or social media.
  • The stalking does not need to be a crime for the restraining order to be granted. If the order is granted and the person breaches it, police can arrest them.
  • The law does require proof of a pattern of behaviour, usually at least two or more acts within a 12-month period, before a restraining order can be granted. If the person challenges the order, you may need to appear in court. It is helpful to have a lawyer or support worker assist you in preparing your application and gathering evidence such as messages, social media interactions, contact on dating apps, call logs, or witness statements.
  • See Restraining Order pages at Ministry of Justice and Community Law.

See also our info on trespass notices, reporting to police, and legal options for online stalking.

Trespass Notices

A Trespass Notice tells someone that they are not allowed to come onto a particular property. If the person stalking you does not know where you live (or work), do not request a Trespass Notice to your home (or workplace), as this can let them know where you live.

  • Otherwise, even if you already have another order in place, a trespass notice can still be useful. It creates a clear record that you have told the person their contact or presence is unwanted and that they have been formally prohibited from approaching you or your property. This can:
    • help police see that the behaviour is persistent and unwanted
    • show that the stalker knew or should have known their actions were likely to cause fear, and
    • strengthen your case if charges are later considered under the Harassment Act 1997 or the upcoming Crimes Legislation (Stalking and Harassment) Amendment Act.
  • You can use it on its own, or in tandem with another order (such as a Protection Order or Restraining Order).
  • It can be made verbally or in writing by anyone who controls a property. You can ask the police to serve it if you feel unsafe doing so yourself for your home. If you do it yourself, let police know you have done so.
  • You can ask your employer to issue a trespass notice for your workplace. If they do not take your concern seriously, and you are comfortable sharing personal information, you may want to share with them any evidence of stalking you have, such as:
    • CCTV footage or staff witnessing the person following, waiting, or loitering
    • reports or written statements from you or others who’ve seen their behaviour,
    • messages, emails, or records showing the person’s unwanted contact
    • any police reports or existing warnings you can share, or
    • a written statement from a FV support worker, GP, or other credible professional who can state in writing that you are experiencing stalking and are in danger at work.
  • Giving or serving a trespass notice means you are challenging the stalker’s control, and they may choose to behave more abusively in response, so it’s best to plan carefully and talk with police or a support worker first about the safest way to do it.
  • See trespass pages at NZ Police and Community Law.

See also our info on reporting to policeorders against family stalking and restraining orders.

Legal aid, advice & support

If you can access it, legal advice and support can be very helpful. A lawyer can help you fill out forms, apply for legal orders and represent you in court. Here are some possible options if you cannot afford legal fees:

  • Legal Aid: If you qualify (primarily low-income), legal aid can help you to pay for a lawyer. To find out if you qualify, talk to a legal aid lawyer, your local Community Law Centre, or Citizens Advice Bureau. Depending on your income, any property owned, and your type of case, you may have to repay some or all of your legal aid as it is considered a “loan”.
  • Community Law Centres: These offer some free legal help through clinics held regularly throughout the country. Depending on your situation, they may be able to help you with more intensive ongoing advocacy. They also provide an online law manual in plain language to help you know your rights in all areas of the law. Including a section on bullying and harassment. Sometimes they can refer you to other local lawyers or services.
  • Family Legal Advice Services: These provide free legal advice for people who qualify based on income and number of dependents. They can only give you initial advice to help you understand your rights and options and help you with Parenting Order applications forms. They cannot represent you in court, and you can only use the service once a year.

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Documenting your experiences

It can be helpful to record every stalking episode in as much detail as possible, and record and save any evidence. These records can be useful if you seek a court order and even more so if you decide (now or later on) to report to police.

  • Useful details may include: person targeting you (if you know who they are), date, time, place, exactly what your stalker did and how you responded.
  • Save all available evidence: screenshots of texts or emails, copies of letters, diary notes, photos of unwanted items left for you, voicemails, approaches on dating apps, social media interactions etc. Also, record names of anyone who witnessed any of the stalking episodes, particularly if there is little other evidence. You can also ask any witnesses to write down what they saw and share it with you.
  • Record each stalking episode separately, with as much detail about each one as you can, and put them in order, so you don’t leave out any information. If you haven’t done this when the stalking began, that’s ok – it’s worth recording stalking episodes at any stage.
  • If you don’t know who the person stalking you is, even small details (like part of a car’s license plate or where the person was last seen or social media profile or dating app names or handles) may help police identify them.
  • If you are worried that your stalker may hack into your device, think about safer ways to store your records and evidence, such as on your work device, on a friend’s or workmate’s device, or with the Bright Sky. This free app – developed in the UK and released in Aotearoa by the NZ government “Are You OK” programme and Te Rourou, One Aotearoa Foundation – has a secure journal feature that allows you to send evidence (photos, voice memos etc) to a safe email address, removing the need to store info on a device.

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